A few comments/insights that I think might help:

1 – Be careful with the words you choose to describe your situation. There is power in words and saying how you feel with a certain kind of emotional intensity tends to make things worse.

People do that when they say, “I’m depressed.” Say that phrase a few times with enough emotional charge and you LITERALLY will feel that way in a matter of minutes. Now I’m not saying to ignore what is happening here, I’m saying that you can choose to say something else in response to what you are going through. Say, “Hmmm… I think I’m in a transition.” Or “Hmmm… things are taking an interesting turn.”

You see what I mean?

2 – Stop putting other people up on pedestals claiming that they have the answer that you don’t. YOU are the answer.

Meaning this… I used to love reading a ton of books about living your dream and… truth is, it requires a lot of work. A lot of dedication… and sometimes years worth of trial and error. Even then, what works for someone else may never work for you. And that is ok.

I’m not sure if you read the article I had done on paying off a DECADE of debt, but 10 years is a long time (and thought it would take a LOT less time). My girlfriend is doing the same thing, and it’s taking her only 3 years. But to me… that is still a long time. Which also reminds me something…

3 – Never put a time limit on who you are.

We sometimes think certain things will take a lot sooner to achieve. It’s a lot of persistence and patience sometimes. The only thing is, you must persist UNTIL you succeed. Most people forget the “until” you succeed.

4 – If you are passing through a dark stage, realize you don’t learn much through a bright one.

When I heard and read that from a lot of people… I thought that was a load of crap. Up until a few years ago, I thought most of my life was a “dark stage.” But the truth of the matter is, I would probably still be using credit cards and living in a hole in the wall if I didn’t go through that.

So now I look back and I’m thankful I went through it (which now allows me to help others through it).

5 – I think it is great to be “full of things to give” and I believe people want to listen to you… it’s just that you have to find the people that do.

When I tried booking speaking engagements a few years back I thought the same thing – I have a book, a good head on my shoulders, accomplished a lot for someone like me and can help a ton of people. Thing is, it requires a lot of work, phone calls, selling, etc. It’s at any level.

6 – “Give up the need to reason, why things happen the way they do.” -Caroline Myss

My life changed when I truly understood that. Most if not all pain we put ourselves through, has to deal with this.

I believe in you and your husband Maria… but what will YOU do to believe in you?

My husband just told me today “We’re passing through a very dark stage of our lives” (not us, but struggling with life itself) and I think that says everything.

I’m so full of things to give, but it seems nobody wants to listen.

I admit I’m kinda confused =S

I believe that creativity isn’t a talent, it’s an obligation.. If we all chose to own our happiness and create our destiny, we would all be much better off.