How To Fight For Your Happiness
Courtesy of Prozac74
I know it seems a bit upsurd to fight for your happiness… but the truth is, it’s something you’re going to have to do.
Constantly barraged by certain individuals and major corporation’s plans over our own lives (mostly because of our lack of one), it’s something that I believe we are going to have to constantly fight for. Happiness.
And the thing is… it’s not easy. So first things first.
*Positive thinking is not enough – we’re going to have to adopt positive doing.
The first thing to manifesting something begins with a thought. True. The thing is, many of us have thoughts. So to turn it into a “positive thought” doesn’t take much. However, to turn that positive thought into a positive action… that is where the magic is.
*Keeping true to you.
A little bit ago I talked about, “Selling Yourself On You.” And that is huge. Why? Because we’re always being sold something… so you might as well, put yourself ahead of everyone else and sell yourself on you – first.
Why? I believe that we must help ourselves and our own family before extending help to others.
“I will take care of me for you, if you will take care of you for me.” -Jim Rohn
*Know what makes you happy. Then do it on a consistent basis.
It’s not enough to know what makes you happy. You have to find a way to do it each day.
For me, sometimes I love writing (to the point I have to drop a lot of things and do it). Other times I feel the same way about music and not so much about writing.
The point I’m trying to make, is that a lot of people are constantly doing things they dread. Then by the time they get home, their too tired to do anything that makes them happy. What about reversing it?
Do more things that make you happy and spend less time on the things you dread.
I know it’s not an easy thing – fighting for your happiness. But the thing is, someone has to do it… and it might as well be you.
Don’t you think?
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I really like this idea Jared.
Lots of people think success and happiness come with out a fight but generally they don’t. That doesn’t have to mean that the fight must be a negative and miserable struggle, it just means that you should be constantly working on the things that make you happy and logging as many happy minutes as you can each day.
That is the big point for me, knowing what makes me happy. I have lost touch with that…working on it everyday. Great post
Thanks so much Ben. All I can say is… “you hit the nail on the head.”
Thanks for your comment Winnie. It hard not to lose touch (with so many things vying for our attention nowadays). I’m really happy you’re working on it every day – sometimes that is all you can do. I’ve found that it’s those little baby steps over time, which makes the difference in the long haul. Great great stuff.
Great point. It’s amazing to look at the energy I have once I complete something when I’m present, nothing think about the future or past but what lies right in front of me.
On the other hand, my energy is zapped once I’m doing things I dread.
Thanks for sharing that RJ. We can’t have our energy zapped… now can we?
Jared, I feel you on this one. I’ll add, “find a balance.” I haven’t learn how to do this yet, but I want to.
We catch ourselves consumed with a marketing strategy, very rarely do I ever feel like I have something completed, so I work twice as long as I should. Keep up the good writing. John
Thanks John. You know… you can never be too balanced. Just like everything rake, it requires a lot of work at first. But the good thing about it is, the sooner you start the faster the results.
Great article. Creative people are passionate and emotional. We’re always looking for appreciation, validation and purpose in our lives. For me, I have to have other creative interests or “outlets”. This gives me balance in my professional life. Without it, I can get to emotionally attached to things and look for value in everything I do, even the things I “dread” doing and aren’t my strengths. I’ve written an article on this: http://caretocreate.com/2010/02/21/creative-horsepower/.
I believe that creativity isn’t a talent, it’s an obligation.. If we all chose to own our happiness and create our destiny, we would all be much better off.
Hey Bruce… great comment. Love your statement about creativity being an obligation.
Right now I feel like I’m in the middle of nowhere: I love to read how should I pursue my dreams, but with no money nor work to have some room to think/breathe, things are geting nasty.
My husband just told me today “We’re passing through a very dark stage of our lives” (not us, but struggling with life itself) and I think that says everything.
I’m so full of things to give, but it seems nobody wants to listen.
I admit I’m kinda confused =S
Hey Maria… thanks so much for taking the time to write that. I can feel what you are saying (because I’ve been there more often than not – which is why I know how to help people through things like this).
A few comments/insights that I think might help:
1 – Be careful with the words you choose to describe your situation. There is power in words and saying how you feel with a certain kind of emotional intensity tends to make things worse.
People do that when they say, “I’m depressed.” Say that phrase a few times with enough emotional charge and you LITERALLY will feel that way in a matter of minutes. Now I’m not saying to ignore what is happening here, I’m saying that you can choose to say something else in response to what you are going through. Say, “Hmmm… I think I’m in a transition.” Or “Hmmm… things are taking an interesting turn.”
You see what I mean?
2 – Stop putting other people up on pedestals claiming that they have the answer that you don’t. YOU are the answer.
Meaning this… I used to love reading a ton of books about living your dream and… truth is, it requires a lot of work. A lot of dedication… and sometimes years worth of trial and error. Even then, what works for someone else may never work for you. And that is ok.
I’m not sure if you read the article I had done on paying off a DECADE of debt, but 10 years is a long time (and thought it would take a LOT less time). My girlfriend is doing the same thing, and it’s taking her only 3 years. But to me… that is still a long time. Which also reminds me something…
3 – Never put a time limit on who you are.
We sometimes think certain things will take a lot sooner to achieve. It’s a lot of persistence and patience sometimes. The only thing is, you must persist UNTIL you succeed. Most people forget the “until” you succeed.
4 – If you are passing through a dark stage, realize you don’t learn much through a bright one.
When I heard and read that from a lot of people… I thought that was a load of crap. Up until a few years ago, I thought most of my life was a “dark stage.” But the truth of the matter is, I would probably still be using credit cards and living in a hole in the wall if I didn’t go through that.
So now I look back and I’m thankful I went through it (which now allows me to help others through it).
5 – I think it is great to be “full of things to give” and I believe people want to listen to you… it’s just that you have to find the people that do.
When I tried booking speaking engagements a few years back I thought the same thing – I have a book, a good head on my shoulders, accomplished a lot for someone like me and can help a ton of people. Thing is, it requires a lot of work, phone calls, selling, etc. It’s at any level.
6 – “Give up the need to reason, why things happen the way they do.” -Caroline Myss
My life changed when I truly understood that. Most if not all pain we put ourselves through, has to deal with this.
I believe in you and your husband Maria… but what will YOU do to believe in you?
I guess I do!